Monthly Archives: July 2025

Remembering the Push

I’m 57. I’m never going to compete athletically at the level I did half a lifetime ago. I know this. I understand this. I’m good in terms of how I think about this.

And so what I look for now are moments where I connect with that former athlete, the drive, the push, that I once had in sports. The ability to have my body quit before my mind does. That’s the push.

We are capable of so much more than our minds usually allow. We exert ourselves with mental limits conservatively below what our bodies can achieve. So when we have those moments where we surrender those limits and work our bodies to limits that are our real limits… we remember the push of who we once were… and we become that again.

Massage Day

I’ve been seeing the same massage therapist for over 25 years. It’s amazing to have someone who totally understands just what my body needs for pain relief. Days like today, I had a couple sore spots I had her focus on, but most days she just digs right in with her elbows and works her magic, exactly where I need it.

For some people massages are enjoyed for relaxation. For me they it’s all about the therapy. My first decade going to her was agony, followed by incredible relief for my back pain. My back pain is much more manageable now, and I know that regular massage has been an essential part of my improvements.

About 5 years in she admitted that she used to hate when I came in because it was so demanding, how deep she had to go. “You were by far one of my three toughest clients and the other two were in severe car accidents,” she told me.

Now she occasionally shares me as an example. If someone is getting a hard massage and asks if she goes harder on someone, she says, ‘I have this one guy that will fall asleep when I’m going harder than this!’ And I do (usually) fall asleep. She knows she’s going deep enough because despite being asleep, I have to change my breathing to withstand the pressure.

Asleep or not, massage day is heaven for me. I come out with zero back pack and it lasts for a few hours. A few moments in my life where I’m not aware of my back, it doesn’t require my attention. Massage days are wonderful!

Leg day

Unlike many memes regarding physical fitness and bodybuilding, I don’t usually skip leg day. In fact, most days I start my workout walking on my treadmill at a fast pace, on an incline, in a 40lb weighted vest, for 20 or more minutes. So, I do work my legs… but they are still chicken legs that make me look like I skip leg day.

I have seen some gains in the past year, but these gains have come at a cost. The cost is that when I work my legs with weights, they always hurt 2 and 3 days later. I worked my legs pretty hard yesterday and my quads and glutes are aching today. I know I’m going to wake up feeling them again tomorrow.

It’s weird, since I started taking creatine a few years ago, that two-day later ache has been drastically reduced. My buddy and I did back and chest workout today that would normally have me aching for days with after workout soreness, yet I can tell it won’t be that bad. Thank you creatine. However, creatine or not, when I work my legs they ache for longer than I find comfortable.

And the reality is that while I work my legs, I don’t work them as hard as I did yesterday all that often. Why? Because it’s not fun feeling like I need to hold the railing going up and down the stairs because my legs feel like jelly. So while I don’t skip leg day, I do skip hard leg days, and really don’t push them as hard as other parts of my body.

Until I join a gym and start using equipment designed specifically for legs, I don’t think I’m going to see too much in the way of gains… I’m just not willing to do the real work it would take. That said, I’m still never going to skip leg day.

Promptism – A flat earth metaphor

I read an interesting article by Sune Selsbæk-Reitz, on a word he sort of invented for asking and believing what AI shares, Promptism. The article, The Earth Is Flat, defines this new word: “Promptism is the quiet belief that if I just ask my question clearly enough, I’ll get something true in return. Maybe even something wise.”

And the article describes how promptism is killing curiosity, and providing ‘truths’ that may not be truthful, and yet are being taken as so at face value without questioning.

From the article:

“The ritual is the same every time:

Ask the machine. Get the word.

Move on.

We don’t think of it as belief, because there’s no incense, no robes, no temple. But there’s authority. And there’s trust. And there’s something deeply seductive about being given something that feels final. Even when it isn’t. Even when the certainty is a performance.

Because the thing is: the more fluent the answer, the more invisible the framing becomes. And if we don’t pause to notice that… we’ll mistake fluency for truth, and coherence for proof.”

The article continues:

“But with ChatGPT or Gemini, the answer arrives fully dressed.

Paragraphs. Polished tone. No seams. No links. Just a voice that sounds sure of itself.

That’s not just convenience. It’s a design choice. And it’s flattening how we think. Because friction – the pause, the doubt, the need to look something up – isn’t a flaw in the process of knowing. It is the process. That little jolt of uncertainty that sends you looking deeper?

That’s what makes knowledge stick.

That’s how you learn.”

…“And the more we do this, the more we forget that knowledge was never meant to arrive fully formed.”

I’ve noticed how this has affected me. I don’t go two or three pages into Google anymore. I don’t find tangent, related, and interesting ideas and connections. I ask an LLM, I get an answer, or I refine my question and ask again. I seek an immediate answer, and I accept that answer.

No more new tabs, no clicking links, just a single conversation, and a sort of final answer. The internet is getting flatter. The depth of search shallower. Promptism is the new search… and I wonder what the consequences are, what the price is, in finding convenient ‘truths’ that we just accept, and don’t bother researching or questioning?

Community & Friendship

As I head to retirement, I’ve been thinking a bit about community and friendships.

When I think about my friendships I’ve come to the realization that of the friends I keep in contact with regularly, they all date back to my first few years of teaching (25+ years ago) and before (university and high school). It’s a little shocking to realize that I haven’t added very close friends for the second half of my life. I have great friends and am not actively looking for more, but that’s still a surprising thing to recognize.

I have friends I connect with when I go back to Toronto, one friend from university here in BC that I try to see regularly despite our very different lives and schedules, and then my friends I met in my early teaching career. And in thinking about retirement I’m very interested in fostering community among these friends.

When there isn’t a sport or a club that we are all members of, how do we make sure we connect regularly? What do we do to build community. My university buddy and I try to make sure that we have experiences and don’t just meet to reminisce. Another buddy and I do the Coquitlam Crunch weekly and try to work out at least one more time a week together. My wonder is, what else can I do with friends to ensure we build community, and grow together rather than apart?

Bad interviewee

I just listened to one of my favourite podcasters interview a brilliant man, and it was awful. The podcast was:

Eric Weinstein (Ex-Harvard Physicist): The Collapse Has Already Started! Jeffrey Epstein Was A Front! On The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett.

Steven asked some great questions and Eric was intent on not answering any of them directly. In two and a half hours of constantly waiting for it to get better, the interview went nowhere.

If you asked Eric to be interviewed again with the soul intention of derailing the interview, he would be hard pressed to do a better job than this version.

It was so sad. A brilliant man on a meandering rant about how people can’t say what they want to say, and yet all he wanted to say was absolutely nothing meaningful.

That’s 2.5 hours of disappointment I can’t have back. I’ll continue to listen to the DOAC podcast, but I’m really done with trying to listen to Eric Weinstein… which is sad, because I think he has a lot of interesting things to share, but he seemed totally unwilling to do so.

Infrastructure as Afterthought

I sent this in an email to my MLA:

I want to express my concerns over infrastructure in Coquitlam. Specifically, we are seeing considerable growth in already busy corridors: North Road and Como Lake, Ioco Road, Austin Avenue and soon Rocky Point. What used to be single family homes are now multiplex townhouses and highrises. These are already some of the busiest roads in Coquitlam and now we are significantly increasing the density and thus adding a lot more traffic. It seems that supporting this added traffic is an afterthought. 

For example, just east of North Road on Como Lake are two streets, Tyndall and Clearmont, that have added a large number of people going to those streets, and they both lack left turn lanes. This is already a traffic slow down and it will only intensify as projects complete and new residences are added. These are just two examples of how traffic flow in our cities is going to drastically worsen as density increases. I can only imagine how bad traffic will get in the coming years if there isn’t a plan to deal with this sooner rather than later. 

I understand the need for increased density. I just wonder why it always seems that road infrastructure is an afterthought? Sure, you can add bike lanes, and promote public transit, but when you add hundreds or thousand people to a community, roads and infrastructure need to be proactively considered rather than trying to fix this issue as an afterthought.

A good day

Sometimes a day just comes together. Today was one of those days. Good friends, family time, good food. And good moments of solitude.

No big exciting highs or solemn lows, just being present with the people around me, and with myself.

A good day.

Stuck in traffic

I soooo love my 7 minute commute to work! Today I had to drive into town and back, and the 40 minute drive took me almost an hour both ways. Sure I’m only talking about a mere 20 minute addition each way, but that’s 2 hours of driving in traffic.

I was alone and listening to a podcast one way and had company the other way, so it was my boring… but I am spoiled with the fact that I rarely have to drive in heavy traffic and I hated it.

Send me on a 3 hour drive with minimal traffic, no problem. But put me in heavy traffic for an hour and I’m questioning my life choices. I don’t know how people can do this five days a week.

Did I mention how much I like my work commute? I feel so lucky to have it!

Room with a view

I am not someone who gets tired of looking at a beautiful view. If I ever move out of my current home, the view will be a priority. Ideally I would have a view of the ocean.

Large vistas and the open ocean speak to me. I feel energized by them, and yet calmed by them. I can hear the silence of the openness, I can feel the emptiness of the space.

If I can’t find an affordable a place with a view, I guess I’ll just have to prioritize this on my holidays.