Monthly Archives: August 2019

A little reminder to educators

I’m writing this as a reminder to myself as well as to others. This isn’t something I’m preaching, it’s something important enough to keep at the forefront of my mind, our minds, as the new school year is about to begin.

There is always so much to do at the start of the school year, and there is the curriculum that must get started… but above all, there are human beings that are coming into our buildings that we need to get to know.

Human beings who have had wonderful summers. Human beings that lost a loved one. Human beings that arrive to school hungry. Human beings that help take care of their younger siblings. Human beings that love their pets, video games, riding their bikes, fashion, art, history, and science.

Get to know these amazing humans. Start there. Not just with the ones that make this easy, with them all. Take the time, your students deserve it.

Email Workflow- A Generic Response

Email can be overwhelming. Here is something I’m thinking of trying. I plan to make this one of my email signatures, so I just have to select the signature, when appropriate, and hit ‘send’… Then move on.

Please help me make it better!

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Greetings,

This is a generic email response to your email below. I receive over 150 emails a day. In my role, running 3 schools, I spend a lot of time away from my desk. This is one of my attempts to direct more of my energy towards my students and teachers, and other parts of my job that should matter more than responding to emails.

If you are receiving this email, please know that:

  1. I read your email.
  2. I thought you deserved a response.
  3. I’m not interested in pursuing what you are offering, or following up on this matter beyond this email.
  4. I am not interested in a response to this email.

Please accept this email with the positive intent with which I sent it… an opportunity to politely respond, while also minimizing the onslaught of emails and email conversations that I receive daily.

Regards, Dave.

Think Good Thoughts, Say Good Words, Do Good Deeds. 

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Objective: Reduce interactions

• If I don’t respond, I get a follow-up email.

• If I do respond, I get a follow-up response… even a ‘Thank you’ means one more email to look at.

What do you think? Also, what other email strategies work for you?

“I’m a hard marker”

This is one of the most puzzling statements a teacher can make, and yet some teachers wear it like a badge of honour.

Who does this benefit? What is the gain?

‘Welcome to my class, you will get a lower mark than your peers in other classes because “I’m a hard marker.” Sure this might be your lowest mark on your report card or it might hinder your ability to get into the university you want, but I’m doing this for you! Yes, that’s right, by being a hard marker, rather than a fair marker, I’m going to give you feedback that will make you even better. I’m sure I could mark fairly and give the same feedback but we both know that won’t motivate you nearly as much as if I’m being hard on you. Because it isn’t about how good you are, it’s about never being good enough to meet my unrealistic standards, which are above the expectations of the course. You are so lucky to have me as a teacher.‘ #Sarcasm

Teachers, please have high expectations. Please help inspire students to do the best they can. And please do so and grade them fairly.

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Two related ideas:

• How important are marks anyway? “The case against grades” by Alfie Kohn

And,

• A recent #Dailyink post: “Start off hard”

Motivational Speakers

Have you ever heard the term, ‘knowing is half the battle’? What a load of crap!

How many people know that:

• Smoking is bad for you.

• Eating poorly can lead to health issues.

• A sedentary lifestyle will take years off of your life.

• Focussing on negative thoughts will reduce your happiness.

How many people:

• Stay in dead end jobs that they hate?

• Remain in unhealthy or abusive relationships?

• Choose to self medicate with elicit or even prescribed drugs?

Most people that do these things, on some level, are ‘in the know’, and that is certainly not ‘half the battle’. I love this quote Derek Sivers, shared on the Tim Ferriss podcast:

“If information was the answer, then we’d all be billionaires with perfect abs.”

Knowing that you need to change is the first step in the process of actually changing. ‘Knowing’ is the compass that points you towards the battle, as opposed to being half of the battle. Once you have the direction you want to go, then the key thing that needs to happen is taking action towards that change.

Recently I’ve seen a lot of platitudes on Twitter and Facebook, as well as in searches for memes when looking for images to add to these Daily Ink posts. Words of wisdom and encouragement that I’m prone to sharing too. They sound nice. They feel good. They tell you that you are special, ‘You can do it!’, believe in yourself. These are wonderful words of inspiration, but there is nothing actionable about them.

They remind me of Matt Foley in his Saturday Night Live skit, ‘Go for it!‘, where he plays a motivational speaker who essentially says, change your life or you’ll end up just like me, “living in a van down by the river”! While most platitudes and words of wisdom and inspiration do not fall under the category of ‘change or you’ll end up being a loser like me’ they are similar in that they don’t really do more than provide encouragement.

A favourite quote of mine comes from John Grinder and Richard Bandler, the founders of NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming, “What is the difference that makes the difference?” This goes beyond platitudes because it identifies what can be done differently in order to change behaviour. It’s the ‘it’ in ‘You can do it’. It’s actionable.

There are some pretty amazing motivational people out there that understand what it takes to change behaviour in people for the better, and there are also a lot of motivational speakers who understand inspiration but don’t meaningfully inspire perspiration – the work needed to actually change… and to me, this is the difference that makes a difference.

The long game

I’ve never been a flexible person. My hamstrings are tight piano wires and my back often feels 15-20 years older than I do.

Recently I’ve been spending more time stretching during my workouts and I’m seeing positive results. Very. Slow. But. Positive. Results.

Stretching is a good example of a long game. Short term benefits and positive results are only seen in the first week or two, then the improvements slow right down. The stretches don’t get easier, they get harder. And still, the results slow down.

How many things can we put in this ‘long game’ category? I think there are many! Flossing our teeth is example. There is research that suggests this isn’t just good for your teeth and gums, it can extend your life. So why is it so easy to ignore this late at night when you just want to brush your teeth and go to bed? Another example, diets are the quick fix, healthy eating and living is the long game.

I can’t pretend to know the secrets to playing the long game well, if I did, I would be able to touch my toes now, after years of stretching, but I’ve only been focused on stretching for a couple months. And, I’m behind on my goal to be able to do handstands because I hit a plateau and haven’t been as committed.

Part of playing the long game for me is making it public. I need to feel accountable to others, to give myself external motivation, for when the internal motivation just isn’t enough.

So now, it’s time to do 20 minutes of cardio followed by light weights and stretching. Because my healthy living goals are part of a long game.

One upon a meme

If you’ve been following my Daily Ink, you’ll know that I’ve been using meme images to accompany my daily blog posts.

(Images below link to the posts.)

Why have I been doing this? I like adding images to posts, but this daily blog is something that I want to do really quickly. So, by using meme images, I can simply find an image related to the topic, quickly add a few words, if needed, and I don’t need to worry about giving the image creator credit. Searching for the right image, adding text, and making it the featured image on my blog, will usually takes less than 5 minutes.

This is great because I’m starting back at school and need this process to be fast if I want to maintain the daily habit. However, yesterday I used this ‘Change my mind’ meme image that I’ve seen used many times before:

I have this blog set up to automatically tweet, add to my Pair-a-Dimes Facebook Page, and post on my LinkedIn profile, accompanied by the featured image on the post.

Yesterday I got a comment response on LinkedIn from Stephen Downes:

“I’m not sure I would have been comfortable using a ‘Louder with Crowder’ photo for this.”

I googled ‘Louder with Crowder’ and got to Steven Blake Crowder’s Wikipedia page, which said this:

“In June 2019, Crowder’s YouTube videos were investigated over his repeated use of racist and homophobic slurs to describe [a] journalist.”

My response to Stephen:

Just looked him up and totally agree. I have been using meme photos with my Daily Ink posts and admittedly am guilty of not paying attention to the stories behind them. Thanks for letting me know.

I then changed the image featured in the post to the more innocuous puffin meme, generally used to convey opinions that are unpopular:

Both images work for the post, but one doesn’t have a ‘charged’ connection to it. Since changing this image last night, I’ve been thinking about my use of memes. This post was educational in nature and adding the ‘Louder with Crowder’ meme image definitely did not add any value to the post, and for at least one reader was deemed inappropriate, (and I certainly appreciate Stephen bringing this to my attention).

So what now? Do I stop using memes? I’m certainly not going to attempt to check the background of every meme image I use, that would totally undermine my attempt to add images without adding significant time to my posts. So, I’ll be more cautious, use more generic images, with animals, cartoons, and famous/iconic people…

And I will make mistakes. When I do, I’ll own up to them, change them if I see fit, learn, grow, and move on.

This has made me think about some people who might have their image ‘memed’ without them liking how the image is used, and also about cultural or racial appropriation of memes. These are things I should think about before using an image. Now I will be more thoughtful, but again I will openly admit that I might make some mistakes. If I do, I’m hopeful someone will let me know so that I can address the concern and continue to learn and grow… while still having fun with memes. 😃

“Start off hard”

Yesterday on Twitter, I read this tweet by a first year teacher, Ms. Beatty:

Recently got the advice of, “Start off hard, you can always get softer,” in terms of student relationships at the beginning of the year. What do you make of that? Is it good advice? Or misguided?

This was my response:

Start with (your personal) high expectations. This can be hard to start, but it’s not starting off intentionally hard… If you don’t share your high expectations early, it gets harder later.
I think these two things get confused and purpose gets lost in the message.

I understand why advice like ‘Start off hard’ would persist in education. A lot of new teachers come in wanting the students to like them, and wanting students to have a wonderful time in their class. So, these new teachers might go overboard being accommodating in ways that potentially, in the long run, hinder their ability to push students to be their best. You might say that they ‘start off being too soft’, and so the ‘go in hard’ advice becomes the counterpoint.

But what’s the purpose or intention of ‘going in hard’? What is it that is being achieved? Is it a need to manage behaviour? Is it control of the class? Is it that you need to assert dominance?

If that’s not it, then what is it you are trying to achieve… And how else can you achieve that? If you are going into a new class to be especially ‘hard’, what does that look like?

Turn that around now and think of ways that students can buy into your (high) expectations, rather than complying to your hard rules and heavy hand. Can they help create class rules and expectations? Can you share your expectations in a positive way?

Once these class rules or expectations are created, then sticking to them isn’t being hard. What’s hard is doing this fairly.

Students will make mistakes… how is this handled? Has this been determined?

Teachers will make mistakes… such as not being fair – giving one student a break, but not another, or breaking the rules ‘because I’m the teacher and I can’.

I think the hard part of the new school year is:

1. Clearly establishing expectations (hopefully with student input).

2. Being consistent with those expectations.

I also think these can be done without being intentionally hard on kids.

Sharing in the open

I responded to a Twitter chat this morning about words in our vocabulary in schools that we don’t need, and I said ‘Homework‘. In the tweet I shared a link to a blog post that I wrote on the topic 8 years ago.

Twitter might have a limited number of characters to share, but when you share a link, that opens up the conversation to so much more. Having said that, you also need to know what you want to share.

For me the decision was easy, I have strong feelings regarding how ineffective most homework is, and I’ve written about it. Google does the rest of the work: I simply google my name and the topic I wrote about: David Truss homework… and there is the link.

I don’t have to rewrite anything, explain things again, spend a lot of time searching, or say less than I want to because of the limits on Twitter.

When I talk to people about blogging, the two responses I get are ‘I don’t have time’ and ‘I don’t have anything worth sharing’. While I understand the response about limits to time, this year I’ve really made time for things that are important to me, and so my response is that if you value something you can find the time to do it.

With respect to the value or worth of the ideas others might want to share, my response is that it really only needs to be valuable to one person. You!

I might get one other person reading this, (thanks mom), 10 people might read it, or 100. It won’t be 1,000, and it doesn’t need to be. My thought for the day is that we live live in an amazing world where we get to share out in the open, and that’s pretty special.

I can share something now and google it 8 years from now to share it again. How cool is that?

Special Moments

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

How many special moments can we count in our lives? What deserves that honour?

Yesterday was my 21st wedding anniversary, surely that counts, as would my wedding day, and the birth of my wonderful children.

But what about that salted caramel ice cream I had last night with my family? What about my conversation with a colleague during a break in our meeting yesterday? What about the wave I got out of the driver’s side window when I let a car in ahead of me?

What about getting off my treadmill after giving myself a physical push with some interval training? Or listening to an insightful passage in an audio book? Or feeling my body relax during meditation?

What about a shared laugh at dinner? What about listening my my daughter recap her day? Or even sending a funny cartoon to a friend via text?

What about watching a sunset? Or petting my cat who pushes his nose against mine? Or a delicious meal?

A hug. A smile. A laugh. A quiet breath? A silent walk. A happy exchange with a store clerk. A supportive conversation with a friend?

We can reserve special moments for only sparse, special, and momentous occasions, or we can choose to celebrate a hundred or even a thousand special moments every day. These moments may not necessarily take our breath away, but they can be celebrated; a reason to smile; an impetus to value life; a moment to appreciate.

In this way, every day can be wonderful. How man special moments will you decide to have today?

Rewards for hard work

I’ve always said that the sport which correlates best with success in school is swimming. I think that when a kid regularly wakes up early and is on a pool deck at 5:30 or 6am, has to look at a board and see a tough workout that will take an hour to do, that builds a mental toughness that most other sports don’t provide.

I’m not saying a football or gymnastics workout can’t be equally as tough, but I am saying that no other sport routinely creates such a tough mental frame for a workout.

You arrive at swim practice and the workout is on the board. You know your warm up, your workout, your cool down. You know it will take an hour. You know it will be hard. You know that you can’t rely on others for anything other than to push you to work even harder. Now get in the pool.

After years of that, pushing yourself through the hoops that schools create are fairly simple. You understand hard work, you understand putting your head down and muscling through what needs to be done.

Forget for a moment that school isn’t just about that, and think about how valuable a skill that is. How useful it will be in the future?

Where in our lives do we train our bodies or our minds to push through and do something hard, for the payoff later? Because ‘work smarter, not harder’ is a wonderful quote, but it doesn’t build grit and perseverance. We don’t become mentally tough through short cuts. Diets don’t work without discipline. Strength doesn’t come without resistance. Effort can’t be sustained without practice. Patience isn’t built without delay of gratification.

Sometime hard work is the reward.

We love the rewards of our hardships but curse the hardships themselves. ~ Seneca