My dad passed away last week. Today we did the paperwork at the crematorium, and we’ll do a family gathering in the fall. He had a stroke while I was visiting over the March break and he never left the hospital after that.
While at the hospital, my youngest sister was staying with dad late one night and she was feeling hungry. She said to him, “I’m heading down to Tim Hortons, do you want anything?”
My dad responded, “No thanks, are you going to get some nuggets of happiness?”
Puzzled, my sister asked, “Do you mean Timbits?
Dad smiled and nodded ‘Yes’.
Nuggets of happiness. This is a great metaphor for coping with my father’s death. There are a lot of emotions, and a lot to deal with. There is great sadness. But then there are also those moments of fond, joyful, and humorous times that I’ll enjoy remembering. Little nuggets to love. Little nuggets that remind me he is still with me as long as I choose to remember.
I don’t think I’ll ever eat a Timbit again without remembering my dad.
And while there are many other emotions right now, I know the memories I cherish, the memories I will share with my mother, my siblings, my wife, my kids, and even grandkids in the future, will bring me joy and happiness.
Aw.. what a nice comforting memory for you ahead!
My condolences to you and your family.
Nuggets of happiness… delightful. It seems to me that we don’t get to enjoy those often enough. Life, it seems, is a limited time offer. Wishing you and yours only the best as you grieve the passing of your father.