I don’t pretend to be a perfect dad, but let me tell you one thing that I do that I’m pretty sure I’ve got right. Whenever one of my kids asks me to pick them up at the end of the night, my default answer is always ‘yes’.
My oldest shared this with me one night when I picked her and three friends up from a club… We just dropped the 3rd one home and my oldest said about the kids me we dropped off second, “You know what she said to me before you picked us up? She said, ‘I think you dad actually likes dropping us home’.” We had a good chuckle.
Yes, I do.
I want to be asked. I want to know they are getting home safe. I want them to plan ahead and ask me. I want them to know that I’m the backup if things don’t go as planned.
The fact is if I’m part of the plan, I know the plan is good. I know they aren’t driving with a designated driver that still had drinks, or left the party early. I know that my kids will call me if they feel stuck, or uncomfortable, or decide to leave before the person driving.
And I want them to know that I’m not rolling my eyes, or judging them, or doing it begrudgingly. As they get older, they aren’t going to come to you for the big things if they don’t feel like they can come to you for smaller things… And playing chauffeur for them every now and then in their late teens and early 20’s isn’t half the work that being chauffeur to sports and dance and musical theatre and singing lessons were when they were younger.
“Hey Dad, can you drive me and a couple friends home at midnight tonight?”
“Of course.”
I enjoyed this post. Thank you. I always felt the same. I bought my son a moped when he was 15 which he used to get to gym and music and stuff but, on Saturday nights, I preferred to sacrifice my own evening out and go and pick the kids and their friends up just to know they would get home safely.
Thanks for commenting Ruth,
I think that many parents do this. It’s just part of being a parent, (and worrying about our babies no matter how old they are:)