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Old Withhold

I’m cleaning out the bathroom cupboards. As I type this, I’m sitting on the bathroom floor looking at a small blue Cooper bag. It says ‘Barbados’ on the zipper end sides, underneath the ‘Cooper’ name and logo. It’s a miniature of a duffle bag and for decades it was my travel toiletry bag when I went on trips. I got it while living in Barbados and it is over 50 years old now. I haven’t used it in almost a decade and while it has held up fairly well, it is old and looks dirty. It’s time to throw it out.

My two eldest sisters, also born in Barbados, both had one as well. Mine was blue, theirs were red and green. I’m not sure they lasted 5 years for them, much less 50. Cooper was not the name brand anyone identified with back then. I think those were Adidas, Nike, and Puma, in that order, and maybe Fila as a close 4th. But I was not someone who bought into the trends… because I was nerdy, not cool, and I liked my little Cooper bag.

I can’t share a specific memory of using it, I just know that it has been a trusted travel companion for most of my life and I find it hard to let it go. The garbage bag is waiting, I’m hesitating. It logically makes no sense to keep it. I’ll never use it again. I won’t. And yet it’s so hard to say a final goodbye.

How many things do we hoard, that we cherish in a way that makes us want to hold on to it, to withhold it from a beckoning garbage dump? Not because it doesn’t belong there, on the contrary, we know that’s where it belongs. But this item, whatever it may be, is a piece of our past, a relic that ties us to our memories, a keepsake to remind us of who we knew, what we did, and ultimately who we are.

Some items will stay as long as we have room, but today I say goodbye to my Cooper bag. It doesn’t have a nostalgic hold on me anymore. 50 years is long enough. A final farewell and into the garbage bag it goes, never to be seen again.

Abe’s Boxes, a video Daily-Ink (and double post)

Too tired to write this all down, so here’s today’s post in video format.

Update: So, this will be a double post, two-days-in-one… The video was created yesterday, but at over 1 gig, I was having issues loading it to YouTube from my phone (it was taking way too long), and after a long shower I’m finally putting it on my laptop. I am too tired to get this done now, at almost 4am, it can load onto YouTube while I sleep. So, the above video is for August 17, and below is my August 18th Daily-Ink.

Today was absolutely exhausting. Loaded 164 boxes, each about 45lbs onto a UHaul and then took it to a recycling plant. I was able to use a dolly to get them on the truck 4 at a time…

But had to toss them out one at a time…

Doing the math, that’s 7,380 pounds of paper I threw out, and unfortunately there’s still a bit left behind.

Then after getting back to my parent’s house the basement cleanup started. We filled a friend’s trailer…

Truck…

And even his cab…

With everything from steel rods, a plasma cutter, tool boxes, solar panels, magnets. And more power transformers and duplicates of tools than any one person should ever own. There are two things my dad did that were beyond compulsive: one was printing and filing things he had read; and the other was compulsively buying far more of an item than he needed. If he needed one item, he bought three. If he needed 5, he bought 20. I wish that was an exaggeration, but it really isn’t.

My friend and sister joked that the local Staples and hardware stores were going to struggle financially now that my dad is gone.

I’m so glad that I was able to help out and get this stuff cleared out. It was cathartic, but also a little sad. First dumping his files that he spent decades collecting, then sending items off to auction likely for pennies on the dollar for what he paid. I’m glad the family is getting together for a memorial in October because I wouldn’t want the memory of today to linger.

Off to bed soon. I catch a plane back to Vancouver in the morning, then head directly to the ferry to visit my daughter I’ve barely seen since she returned from France in June. Tomorrow is going to be another busy day!