One of the illusions of a busy life is that there is never enough time:
“I would love to… (insert desired outcome here)… if only I had the time.“
But the ‘if I had the time’ narrative is a myth. That’s not why you haven’t reached your desired outcome, you haven’t reached it because the outcome isn’t important enough yet.
A perfect example: Someone with an unhealthy diet says, “I would love to eat more healthily, if only I had the time.” Then they have a health scare and are told their unhealthy diet is killing them. Suddenly they find the time to make better meals instead of eating fast food. Things like grocery shopping, food prep, and planned meals become a time priority. The difference was information, not time. The day didn’t suddenly become longer to fit these things in, the time was ‘found’ despite all the other things that demand time.
Here is author Julia Cameron on finding time to write:
“The “if I had time” lie is a convenient way to ignore the fact that novels require being written and that writing happens a sentence at a time. Sentences can happen in a moment. Enough stolen moments, enough stolen sentences, and a novel is born — without the luxury of time.”
Creating stolen moments is the path to desired outcomes. “I would love to…” is a prompt to actually do whatever comes next. Would you really ‘love to’? Really? Then find the time. Steal enough moments to make it happen. If not, admit that you really wouldn’t ‘love to’, and that you are lying to yourself. How do you know if your are lying to yourself? If you are saying “if only I had the time“, well then you really don’t want to do it. It’s a wish, not a goal. It’s a lofty aspiration, not an intended outcome.
Not many people have the luxury of time. Life gets busy. Yet, everyone has moments that can be stolen and directed to something they love, something they desire, something they think they don’t have time for. There is a quote by Ryan Blair that speaks best to this, “If it’s important you’ll find a way. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse.”
In our busy lives stolen moments are the way. Steal enough of them and you have a habit of getting the things you really love (not just say you love) done.
